So love as we all love to tell ourselves is the chemical
reaction that makes us dizzy with anticipation, that makes our panties wet and
our organs stand to attention, but have you ever wondered if you are really in
love or just having an allergic reaction. What happens when those feelings go
away and all that’s left is this faint sense of having gotten the short end of
the stick? Well, while I cannot help you deal with the Chemistry of it all,
since it’s all Biology, what I can help you do it go through a few things to
help you know if you are in love or if you just have food poisoning.
- I’m falling in Love!
I have said this a million times before if you are FALLING
in love, you are not IN Love, you just have a balance issue. Walk into love
with your eyes wide open, see the faults, real and imagined accept them if you
want to, but don’t make the excuse that Love FORGIVES all things, it doesn’t.
Most of the time Love looks at all things, decides which weapon would be best
for smashing your brain in, agrees that it would be fun to do so, but takes a
deep breath and realizes things could be worse.
- My Love is perfect!
Love is not perfect, its changeable and sometimes icky,
secrets are revealed and confessions made. If you HOLD your Love on a pedestal
you are bound to get disappointed because people are not perfect and whatever
you put on a pedestal at the slightest shake will most likely fall and break. Hold
on to the wonderful difference that is your love and only when you can deal
with the disappointment and still see them as lovely they are, then you know
you are in love.
- My sex keeps my Love strong!
Yes many of us have mistaken good sex (ok great mind-blowing,
out of this world sex) as love. Unfortunately most to the people who give us
that type of sex are not always fully sane, just a by note, and despite the
wonderful SEX we get it isn’t love, it’s just this person who knows how to turn
you on. Chances are if they know how to turn you on, they know how to turn a
million other people on, sometimes its practice makes perfect or sexual
compatibility but it’s not the basis of love. Love should exist even on the
days when the sex is not that good, it should exist on the days when you are
not feeling it but you do it because you know one day soon the other person won’t
be feeling it, but they would do it just for you.
- Temper tantrums and passionate make ups make my Love interesting!
Yeah!
If your love is based on behaving like a child looking for
attention and when they don’t get it they throw a hissy fit in the supermarket,
then I can assure you that’s not love, that’s a SILLY child who still believes
that daddy or mummy will love me more because I’m so cute, ain’t nothing cute
about a grown arse person behaving like a brat.
While love is patient etc, and people have varying bullshit acceptability
level, short of role playing the role of a brat during sex games, grow up! Love
is about being able to have a rational discussion, compromising when there is a
need for it and most of all leaving the brattish behavior to any child you
have.
As you go through this valentine season, and WALK into Love,
remember that a great present will always dry tears (except if you did
something very stupid then only God has your back), attention and affection is
not just for one day, if for ALL days and finally since I’m alone for Vals day I’m
accepting presents! So send them down LOL!
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