SM play
Sado- Masochistic play, yes it sort of sounds scary but it
really means that you like to indulge in a bit of tying and spanking (well a
bit is also dependent on your pain tolerance, and how much of a BAD boy or girl
you’ve been!). S and M as its more commonly known makes many people respond in
the old adage ‘I don’t want someone beating the crap out of me for sex’, but
things are not as easily explained as that.
S and M is also about control and release of control, some
people find that being in control all the time is exhausting and they want to
hand over that control to somebody else and in so doing clear their mind and
focus on just what the other person wants, such people are also sometimes
called submissives. On the flip side there are some people who want to be in
control or just generally like being in control, for them the feeling of
knowing that they are responsible for theirs and another person’s pleasure or
pain is stimulating and empowering, these people are also sometimes known as
dominants.
Never take it for granted that a submissive is automatically
less than a dominant because a dominant cannot be who they are if somebody
doesn’t give them the control.
Things to bear in mind before going into S and M:
- · Take it slow – there is absolutely no reason to jump into S and M, because until you both understand each other’s pain tolerance and try varying levels of spanking with hand, paddles, canes etc you cannot start full fledged.
- · Have a safe word – Like the rape fantasy you need a safe word for when the pain gets too much or when you become uncomfortable
- · Research – I would never advice anybody to go into S and M without some research, this is important because there are many aspects to this type of sex and without proper preparation, the rewards are not as plentiful as they could be.
Sex outside
There is something thrilling about having sex outside with
the possibility of getting caught, sex outside is one of those freaky things
that is not really considered freaky by those who have done it and scandalous
by those who have not.
To undertake this unfreaky freak, follow the following
steps:
- · Already know the place you want to try this out, it cannot be too secluded, but unless you are an expert it can’t be too public either
- · Be willing to take a chance, sometimes when you are having sex outside, you might think you hear a noise hold still and see if it’ll pass, this adds to the thrill of being outside
- · Women wear a free flowing skirt or dress, its easier to have on something that can fall easily during this time allowing for some privacy and secrecy, also if someone is coming you can easily drop you skirt not so pulling up your trousers
- · Have a car nearby for any quick getaways you might have.
Asking for Freaky Sex
For many people asking for freaky sex is terrifying,
particularly if you don’t have a good communication base with your partner.
Many people are afraid of how they will be viewed and how their partner will
perceive them forgetting that if you cannot tell you partner everything you
want and feel you will end up in a frustrating and frustrated relationship.
Steps that can help
you to ask for it;
·
Tell your partner your fantasy – At every point
in a relationship the fantasy question arises, and this is the point where you
have to be honest, ease into the highlights of what you want to try and if
asked for greater detail embellish it.
·
Speak to a sex counselor – Sometimes it’s not
the talking that causes a problem its how to say it. In such circumstances a
sex counselor can provide a buffer to interpret what you want and allow you to
express that part of yourself.
So if you are in the mood for freaky dicky sex try some of
what you’ve seen and if you are brave enough let me know if it was good for
you!
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