You've all heard about that guy/girl who is a FREAK!!! Your
heard that they do things that your partner would never dream of much less
think of, and every time you want to get down and dirty and bring out the
freaky dicky sex in you, you just don’t know how to talk about it to your
partner and you don’t know if they'll think you are just wrong.
What we are going to do is talk about 4 key acts that can be
considered Freaky Dicky and also how to ask for it! This is Part 1, Part 2 is just around the corner.
Anal Sex
To hear people talk about anal sex, you would think it was the
worst thing since having sex in any other way than missionary. Men and women alike talk about how they would never
engage in anal sex, how disgusting, and awful it is.
The truth if surveys are to be believed is
that anal sex is on the increase among heterosexuals (in 2005 it was recorded
that 38.2 percent of men between
20 and 39 and 32.6 percent of women ages 18 to 44 engage in heterosexual anal
sex. Compare that with the CDC’s 1992 National Health and Social Life survey,
which found that only 25.6 percent of men 18 to 59 and 20.4 percent of women 18
to 59 indulged in it).
What is
meant by anal play; this is best defined as any action that involves the
stimulation of the anal passage (so we are talking licking, inserting of
fingers, insertion of the penis or any other foreign object in the anal
passage).
Despite the fact that many shy away from it, it is to be noted
that the Male G spot is in the anus and many a woman has admitted to
stimulating it by the insertion of their finger. For women a different
feeling of pleasure/pain can be gained from this experience.
To undertake anal sex bear in mind the following:
- · Use a lot of lubricant - since the anus does not produce any natural fluids and you need to lubricate to allow for easy movement
- · Use a condom - you can get as many STI and STD’s from anal sex as vaginal sex
- · Train the anus – you can use varying anal expanders/ butt plugs to 'train the anus to accept bigger sizes over time, this will also aid the process of having the actual sex.
- · Try a colonic – you can never be certain what is stuck up there and like I advice that you clean up before entertaining a head of blow job its important to do the same for anal play.
- · Trust - is one of those things easily spoken about but rarely truly given, to have anal sex, you have to trust your partner otherwise you’ll be jittery, tighten unconsciously and generally have a miserable experience
Rape
fantasy
Though women don’t talk about it, many have a rape fantasy. This doesn't mean that they truly want to be
raped, it just means that they have the urge to give control away and indulge
in the ‘if someone snuck in, in the middle of the night thing’.
Having such feelings does not make you terrible or jonesing to be actually raped by an unknown person, it is a control release fantasy, and for
many men the opportunity to bring out the stealthy part of their personality
can be both freeing and stimulating.
To go about enjoying and taking part in a rape fantasy, here are a
few pointers:
- · Make sure it is your partner you tell the details of your rape fantasy, because if it’s a random person who finds out about this and has sex with you it is RAPE and no longer a fantasy!
- · Agree a safe word – it is important that if the fantasy is becoming less fun and more terrifying you can use the word to STOP. These words can be anything from Apple, to SpongeBob, just don't use a word that you would normally use during that time like 'umm', 'haaa' or the simple 'idiot'.
- · Trust – in all things to do with freaky sex, you have to trust each other otherwise the experience would be less exciting and stimulating and more terrifying and debilitating.
- · Agree entrances and exits – Don’t have a rape fantasy and while your partner thinks they are coming through the door you only leave the window open, such mistakes have caused many a near death experiences, and police arrests. Nothing is more embarrassing than having to explain to the police that 'we were play acting he was going to rape me and you arrested him'.
That's it with Part 1, join us next time in Part 2 as we talk SM Play and Sex Outside!
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