Freaky Dicky Sex Pt 1

You've all heard about that guy/girl who is a FREAK!!! Your heard that they do things that your partner would never dream of much less think of, and every time you want to get down and dirty and bring out the freaky dicky sex in you, you just don’t know how to talk about it to your partner and you don’t know if they'll think you are just wrong.

What we are going to do is talk about 4 key acts that can be considered Freaky Dicky and also how to ask for it! This is Part 1, Part 2 is just around the corner.

Anal Sex

To hear people talk about anal sex, you would think it was the worst thing since having sex in any other way than missionary. Men and women alike talk about how they would never engage in anal sex, how disgusting, and awful it is.  

The truth if surveys are to be believed is that anal sex is on the increase among heterosexuals (in 2005 it was recorded that 38.2 percent of men between 20 and 39 and 32.6 percent of women ages 18 to 44 engage in heterosexual anal sex. Compare that with the CDC’s 1992 National Health and Social Life survey, which found that only 25.6 percent of men 18 to 59 and 20.4 percent of women 18 to 59 indulged in it).  

What is meant by anal play; this is best defined as any action that involves the stimulation of the anal passage (so we are talking licking, inserting of fingers, insertion of the penis or any other foreign object in the anal passage).

Despite the fact that many shy away from it, it is to be noted that the Male G spot is in the anus and many a woman has admitted to stimulating it by the insertion of their finger. For women a different feeling of pleasure/pain can be gained from this experience.

To undertake anal sex bear in mind the following:

• ·         Use a lot of lubricant - since the anus does not produce any natural fluids and you need to lubricate to allow for easy movement
• ·         Use a condom - you can get as many STI and STD’s from anal sex as vaginal sex
• ·         Train the anus – you can use varying anal expanders/ butt plugs to 'train the anus to accept bigger sizes over time, this will also aid the process of having the actual sex.
• ·         Try a colonic – you can never be certain what is stuck up there and like I advice that you clean up before entertaining a head of blow job its important to do the same for anal play.
• ·         Trust -  is one of those things easily spoken about but rarely truly given, to have anal sex, you have to trust your partner otherwise you’ll be jittery, tighten unconsciously and generally have a miserable experience

Rape fantasy

Though women don’t talk about it, many have a rape fantasy.  This doesn't mean that they truly want to be raped, it just means that they have the urge to give control away and indulge in the ‘if someone snuck in, in the middle of the night thing’.

Having such feelings does not make you terrible or jonesing to be actually raped by an unknown person, it is a control release fantasy, and for many men the opportunity to bring out the stealthy part of their personality can be both freeing and stimulating.

To go about enjoying and taking part in a rape fantasy, here are a few pointers:

• ·         Make sure it is your partner you tell the details of your rape fantasy, because if it’s a random person who finds out about this and has sex with you it is RAPE and no longer a fantasy!
• ·         Agree a safe word – it is important that if the fantasy is becoming less fun and more terrifying you can use the word to STOP. These words can be anything from Apple, to SpongeBob, just don't use a word that you would normally use during that time like 'umm', 'haaa' or the simple 'idiot'.
• ·         Trust – in all things to do with freaky sex, you have to trust each other otherwise the experience would be less exciting and stimulating and more terrifying and debilitating.
• ·         Agree entrances and exits – Don’t have a rape fantasy and while your partner thinks they are coming through the door you only leave the window open, such mistakes have caused many a near death experiences, and police arrests. Nothing is more embarrassing than having to explain to the police that 'we were play acting he was going to rape me and you arrested him'.

That's it with Part 1, join us next time in Part 2 as we talk SM Play and Sex Outside!

Have Sex Like a Porn Star!!

It’s every woman’s dream to be able to give their man the type of sex that makes a porn star blush and every man’s wish to sleep with a porn star. On the flip side its everywoman’s dream to be able to have a man who can do what she wants the way she wants like the porn stars seem to do and every man’s dream to not have comparison’s made with the ex, the first or worse still that guy with the HUGE!!! On screen, so this is Pink Mafia’s Guide to having sex like a porn star.

Let me start that I say sex not make love because what porn stars do is sex at its basic non emotionally connected way.  If you want to make love, then you are talking emotions, love (or at least affection) and a lot more soft lighting. To have sex like a porn star we are talking sweat, well generally fluids of all kind, a bit of acrobatics, some awesome yoga moves and not forgetting experimentation. It is also important to note that in porn movies, there are *fluffers and you can always cut and restart again.  This is not true for the real world, in the real work, you get dry, cranky and parts of your body you never knew existed begin hurting BAD.

So before you undertake this journey (and trust me if you don’t plan this well it’ll seem like a 10 year journey into the Sahara) here are a few steps.

·         Begin simple stretches to relax your joints and muscles

·         Have a massage, you need to be supple

·         Buy lube, since you are in for the long haul you need to keep lubricated

·         Drink a lot of water, hydration is key

Part of the preparation for sex like a porn star also includes the physical not just the internal so,

·         Clean up down there (shave, wax, or just make sure it looks neat)

·         Get something sexy to wear; nobody wants to fuck a porn star with tatty underwear

·         Don’t spray perfume on your private part, it hurts, it smells funny after a while and its bitter

7 Steps to getting down!!!

1.       Inhibitions – are your enemy, porn stars don’t have inhibitions, they go out and experience all that there is to, so don’t be coy and remove your dress slowly (women) and don’t be overly focused on the goal (men) go in there with confidence and awareness that your sex is the best

2.       Lube up – porn stars swear by lubes (all types, spicy, peppery, flavoured, or just plain) because it keeps the movement free and easy, nobody wants to feel as though they are having sex with sand paper and after a while everybody gets dry

3.       Positions – anybody who has watched a porn film knows that positioning is key, positions for deeper penetration, positions for make sure the G spot is always hit, change position, experiment.

4.       Dirty – don’t be afraid to get dirty, and by dirty I means sweaty, hair mussed, and smeared with fluids, porn stars are not about the looking pretty during sex, they are about getting maximum pleasure

5.       Use your Mouth – yes ive said it in other blogs, but I cannot say it enough, from 69’s to blow jobs, head, licking, biting your mouth provides another avenue to increase pleasure

6.       Pain – if you are inclined towards pain, a little bit of spanking and scratching can make a whole lot of difference

7.       Voice – porn stars use their voices a lot, from moaning and screaming to, talking dirty and saying just how they want it, free your voice let it fly!

Now if all of this doesn’t do you like a porn star, then come talk to me and we’ll find out just what is blocking you!

*fluffers – people whose job is to make sure you stay hard if you are a guy and wet if you are a woman

She’s hairy but I like it!

I once had a client who told me of his fetish for hairy girls, I mean it wasn’t enough that they has hair on their arms, and were furry down there, no he wanted them fully covered, armpit, legs, no bikini shaving/ waxing in fact if she had chest hair it was an added bonus, and to see this man you would never guess. 6ft 1inc, toned, built and loaded, and he has a furry fetish
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Another had a thing for women best described as Hottentots, small tops (like size 8’s) and enormous backsides (size 22).  For him the bigger she was from the waist down, the better, he loved the cellulite the puckering and the fat. 

Finally one that surprises most people are men who like women with body odor, not slight it’s a hot day and she smells of body not perfume, but women who after they leave the room the odor stays for a few days and have a party.

I know, to many people what ive just described is disturbing, women with chest hair, women’s whose backside is still in the house when they are at work and women whose body odor has a life of its own, but there is a world out there of women who are like this and they are thriving and have partners, and are loved for themselves.

So what makes a woman most people would consider ‘just not right’, the right pick in the man/ woman games…........ Niche Marketing.

There’s a term known to the marketing sorts called niche marketing. Niche marketing is the subset of the market on which a specific product is focusing. So the market niche defines the specific product features aimed at satisfying specific market needs.

 This for those not concerned with product marketing, this simply means there are some things that attract a subset of society so if you have it, flaunt it, and throughout history these women considered by many others as not conventionally attractive due to the above is not a new phenomenon.

In China when women’s feet were bound, poets wrote long, lyrical poetry about the perfume of the rotten feet, because to them the smell of the feet is evocative of the smallness of feet, daintiness of the woman of course the smell that being such produces.

Throughout history, the hip endowed women have been noted as being of great attraction, because of their child bearing capability and also of key examples of what it means to be feminine.  In fact till today, it is said that men like women whose waists are at least 10 incs smaller than their hips because the more curvaceous shape is revealed.  To this end, the big hipped women continue to follow this ideology however to a much more conspicuous amount. After all, what other reason would western women of old  want to wear a bustle to give them a larger backside or an antebellum ball gown to give them wider hips.

The one that most men however rarely want to admit to, is their love of a hairy woman, they believe that admitting to liking such women says something about their sexuality. The truth however is much simpler, if you are to believe science we are all descended from apes, and the feeling of fur/ hair can be both comforting and erotic, after all, which woman hasn’t given some sort of hair job.

Accepting yourself

If you are any of the above women who is yet to understand and accept the power of her uniqueness, here are a few tips to help in the process and also give you the upper hand.

1.       If you have it flaunt it -  this does seem like a bad idea particularly if we are talking body odor, but the truth is that some issues of odor has to do with your glands and there is little to nothing that can be done about it, so own it and deal with it.If it bothers you change it – While odor can be fixed to some degree (baths 3 times a day, use of antiperspirant, and carrying of perfume and antiperspirant to help with the smell) other things such as a large hip cannot be changed, but it can be dressed well to reduce the prominence. For a hairy chest, waxing, or electrolysis can reduce this and give you the smoother chest you want, but only if you want this, don’t do it to make someone else happy.

Finally its not enough that someone loves you, you have to love yourself, start with that and the rest as they say is only a drop in the ocean of your life.

She’s my spec and that’s it

Many men feel very uncomfortable admitting to their predilection for the above type of women, and since men as a whole like to date women that they believe their friends would like to date, not necessarily the sort of women they like, its difficult to admit that the type of woman you like is not typical. Irrespective of this, the important thing is that if you like these women, don’t be ashamed of it, they are your spec, and if she makes you happy, whose concern but yours is it what she looks or smells like!