So after 3 months of dating, and, 1 month of petting (on,
above or below the clothing action, no nakedness) you are ready to do it, get
down, get busy and babes has been giving all the signal, then you go to bed and
what happens, the woman is not wet, she’s not reacting and you know she’s
faking it with all that oooh and aaaaaah.
Again you try because you are not a quitter but after 3
attempts one of them which nearly cost you your middle finger as you try to
find the G Spot, you know this girl is FRIGID! In fact a freezer has more in it
than this girl, so you go.
A few months later you see the girl again, she is with some
man and they are in LOVE! Girl is so
loved up you know they are having good SEX but what happened why is she all
over him when you still have freezer burn.
So what happened, why has this girl suddenly gone from
subzero to hell in high heels , sorry to tell you but you have just lost out because you actually believe women
are frigid!
Let me put an end to this particular myth, WOMEN ARE NOT
FRIGID!
There are many reasons why women are not responsive to men,
from the basic, ‘ you don’t know what you are doing and you are not turning me
on’ to the more emotional ‘something
messed up happened to me and I can’t get over it’, and only a man with patience
and hit that spot right.
Men
Despite the term turn me on, women are not switches, they
don’t automatically switch on and off, they need to be slowly warmed and when
they are reaching maximum velocity stoked to make sure the explosion is
memorable. I use nuclear terms because I figured if I used romantic ones you
might get turned off.
It is important to ensure whenever you are having sex with a
woman that you are touching all parts of her. The truth is that some women
don’t know what turns them on, or maybe they have difficulty talking about it.
It could be they are Subs and want a man who will be masterful, or it could be
that they are Doms and they want a man who they can be masterful with. Whatever the case may be discussion in and
out of bed, exploration and more importantly patience is a virtue, and once you
have gotten to her spot, bye bye frigid, hello Mama!
Women
Men are not mind readers, if you don’t know what turns you
on or even tell them what it is that makes you want to jump out of your skin
they won’t know.
To this end it is your responsibility to explore your erotic
zones, understand your body and know if you are a penetration mama, oral is A
okay, tie me up or tie me down, do what you are told woman. If you don’t know
who will!
Something messed up happened to me in the past and I just can’t
get over it’
Men
This is a thorny subject because is something messed up your
woman, she needs more than patience she might need medical support in the form
of a counselor. There are women walking
around with the most put together exterior and a very messed up interior, so
here are a few tips to help you help her:
Listen
When you are having sex or even talking with your partner,
it is important to listen to what she is saying regarding her disappointments
and do overs. This can give you a clue into how you need to manage her arousal
and her sex.
Patience
For some women its not that they cannot get aroused they
just take a longer time to get there, so slow and gently wins the race (ok
sometimes slow and hard wins the race) whatever the case may be patient
Understand
If you do the above, you might begin to hear some things that will blow you
mind, and could even make you re evaluate this person, whatever you do be
understanding and do not be an arse hole and demonise her.
Women
It’s never easy to express the challenges, pain and fear
that you have faced because after all who wants damaged goods, but you have to
remember, many things have happened in life and if this person wants to be with
you (be it for a night or a lifetime) they need to know how to understand you
and where to stroke you for success.
Express yourself ladies.
Before I round up this I need to bring up the one topic that
men use to justify their ‘she is frigid argument’, ‘she has been
circumcised’. I hate to break this to
you guys, just because a woman was circumcised does not mean she cannot achieve
orgasm. What female circumcision (by the
way this is a very barbaric custom, I don’t care who gets upset) means is that
the skin on the clitoris has been hardened but still has feelings (kind of if
you have a cut that heals over), it just takes a bit more time to stimulate
those parts of her to get the reactions.
Now for those of you men who wonder why you should go
through all the trouble, well, if you have never taken the time to give a woman
the orgasm of her life, then you have never gotten the feeling that you are the
most wonderful, powerful, god type man in existence!
Want to have that feeling? Do the above!
I was once likened to an 'old diesel engine'. After almost ripping my boyfriend's head off, he explained that he equated me to the engine because I was slow to warm up but when I did, there was no stopping me. Women, I agree, are not frigid. There may be underlying issues, thoughts of other things or just plain old unawareness of what they like. Experimentation and dialogue are keys. Remember though, both parties need to agree on how far to go .....
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