10 Steps to giving a great Blow Job

So for those of you who missed out on our wonderful radio shop on http://radio.zoodrums.com Friday 5-9pm Nigerian time, (its online radio by the way so you can even listen from your smartphone if you have a data connection) you missed the wonderful guide to giving a good blow job.

However I figured why should you miss out, so here is a quick guide to giving and receiving a great BJ. Having the required skill in giving a good blow job is a pre requisite for all modern women, I know its not the thing to say to most people, but nothing will destroy the fun of sex than giving a sloppy blow job or choking on a penis as you try the dangerous deep throat.

So are you sitting comfortably, lets begin the lesson.

1.       A good BJ is all about the lubrication, if your mouth is dry, so will your throat and you will not be able to achieve the sliding motion needed.

2.       Its always a good idea to begin by licking the tip of the penis and blowing lightly into the little hole on top, this is a starter, despite what they call it, this is probably the only blowing you will be doing during the BJ, its more a suction thing.

3.       Slide down the shaft with your mouth as comfortably as you can and pull back by suctioning your mouth.  You have to keep the suction going as you go up and down with your head, you can also be licking the tip of the penis while its in your mouth.

4.       When you are in the above stage, if you are unable to deep throat the man, I would suggest putting your hand in a medium to firm grip on the base on the penis which means that if the man does the pushing your head down you have a stop gap in place.

5.       The suctioning after a while can become tiring, at this point, remove your mouth from the penis and lick along the shaft, like a lollipop, encircle the tip and slid down again.  You might also want to be playing with the balls at this time, gentle tickles, slight rolling in your hands, do not squeeze it like an orange, this is a very sensitive part of a man’s body.

6.        Alternate between sucking, licking, using your hand to massage the shaft, tickling the balls and if you want to tea bagging. Tea bagging is the putting of the balls in your mouth licking it and playing of it in your mouth.

7.       As the penis becomes more engorged you will want to change from the slower softer movements that you might have been doing about to shaper, shorter movements ( a lot more head bobbing), for those of you who are into deep throat, you might also push forward into this because the penis is now stiff enough not to be a problem with ingesting.

8.       Hum, humming with the penis in the mouth produces a vibrating effect that is hits certain key nerves at the tip of the penis

9.       Keep lubricated through the use of water (stopping to take a swig or two) and lubes during this period because a blow job can take anything from 10 – 30 mins depending on your partner and a dry mouth is like sand paper on your vagina.

10.   Have fun. There is nothing more depressing for your or the person you are giving a blow job to have a miserable, face going down. Enjoy, relax and remember that you went down and he has to reciprocate.

For guys a few quick tips on what not to do when you are receiving a BJ,

Do not grab her head and shove it down your dick

Guide her, but don’t criticize, if she’s not doing it well, its okay to tell her what you like

When all is said and done and you have enjoyed the BJ, reciprocate, good deeds should be rewarded.

So now we have done the BJ’s next we’ll talk about the bowing at her altar of pleasure.

Are you dating a MAN or a BOY?

In this dog eat dog, I want to marry and be a Mrs world, many women fall into the trap of anything that is going by, however before you make a commitment to anybody, you have to ask a very important question are you dating a MAN or a BOY.

A boy can be any age from 1-100 similarly a man can also fall within this category. 

So for women find out if he is the MAN you need of the BOY for the moment and men find out how you stack up and if you can transition from a BOY to a MAN. 

http://www.essence.com/2011/10/25/modern-day-matchmaker-how-to-tell-if-youre-dating-a-man-or-a-boy/

Over 40 and not feeling it?

Often as women get older (40’s and above), they begin to feel that they are losing the sensual feeling that they once had when they were young. To some this has to do with the fact that they are no longer being chatted up by men the way they used to, also it might be the proliferation of younger woman that now become more a staple than incidental.

 The interesting thing about age however is that the 2 sexes reach their sexual peak at different ages and as women get older the more sexual they are. Men reach their peak in their 20’s (difficult to believe with the randy nature of some older men) and women reach their peak in their 40’s, however with a mixture of hormones possible due to menopause or just the general stress of day to day life, the urge to get busy is just not forthcoming.

If you are in the above stage, I would suggest a few steps to make things more exciting and that can help you perk things up in all areas:

 First I would suggest that you go to your doctor to check if you have begun going through menopause, I know that that seems to be a default answer but this is important to determine if there is a medical reason for your loss of libido.

Second are you in a relationship that encourages you to experiment and try out new things this can also be an issue if you are not able to express that sensual self with the person you are with

Third how well do you know your body, it’s a good idea to try and find out what turns you on again, if you don’t ,know what turns you on, how can you get the sensual feeling back.

This like all things is not a quick fix answer and we must consider if there are underlaying issues not just the above that is affecting your lower libido levels.

Altogether you are a beautiful and sexy woman and you deserve to feel all those sensual feeling you know you have in you.

Fantasy Lover

Recently in a survey conducted by Durex, it was noted that Nigerian women are the most likely to cheat, in fact more than that it said that Nigerian women actually DO cheat the most on their spouses. So you can imagine my chagrin when one of my clients informed me that she had not only been having fantasies about HOT Hollywood men but more dangerously the hot colleague in her office while she is having sex with her husband.

To be frank such fantasies are normal, particularly when it is in relation to Hollywood men, like characters in a book the people are not real to us so it is easier to project a fantasy on them, its a fantasy and all things considered you are as likely to meet the Hollywood as you are to have sex with them, this sounds harsh but it’s the truth.

 What is dangerous however is fantasizing about your work colleague while having sex with your husband. While sometimes, it is inevitable that our normal lives will interfere with out fantasy life, when it comes to continuous sexual fantasies caution needs to be taken. Many women cheat not just because they are looking for emotional, sexual and psychological support outside, but also like men because of proximity, what this means is that the likelihood of your fantasy life moving to reality is high, so separation is key.

 Fantasizing about a colleague allows you to project the idea of an ideal on a real life person  that you know and speak to daily, thus creating more of an emotional bond and being  curious as all people are, at some point you will want to find out if the reality is as enjoyable as the fantasy and this is where the lines get blurred.  I couldn’t offer her a straight forward answer on how to overcome the fantasy, other than continuing to work in therapy to find out why these feelings are developing and trying to redirect this energy. However a series of baby steps can be implemented to at least counter the effect.

The first steps are to think about:

·         What is it about this man that makes him the focus of your fantasy?

·         Is there a common thread between the Hollywood men and the colleague you are fantasizing about in terms of looks, character?

·         What could your husband do to make you more aware of him when you are having sex?

Just remember that if all is said and done there was something that attracted you to your husband in the first place, try and find it to recreate the spark so that your fantasy life can be all about your husband again.