Dear Pink Mafia,
I have met the woman I want to spend the rest of my life
with, I love her, I cannot stop thinking about her and I have proposed to her,
but I have one big problem, she’s with somebody else.
My love has according to her been dating a married man for 3
years, which has its own issues, but what has me confused is that supposedly
they have never slept together and he gets jealous when she’s speaks to me or
about me, I’m lost.
How do I make this wonderful woman realize that she has a
jewel in me, a single guy who want to give her the world as opposed to this
married man who has nothing to offer her.
Yours
Lost in Love
Dear Lost in Love,
I am sorry to tell you the girl is playing you! Yes I said
it she is playing you!
Let me start by saying that regardless of the issues that
there are with her dating a married man, the fact that she is supposedly dating
this man and they have never had sex, but she feels that he has a right to be
jealous of her time. In addition to this, for her to be going out with you but isn’t
willing to discuss a relationship when I imagine she is giving all the signs
that she wants a relationship tells me that she is either not serious about you
or she is using this ‘relationship’, to taunt you or the other guy.
For me to determine if this is love or infatuation on your
side, I have to speak to you first and understand how this relationship
evolved. However, as it relates to your girl’s thinking, let me break it down
like you are 6 years old.
·
She likes you but is trying to see how hard you
will work
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This girl might really like you, but feels like she cannot
open herself to you so she wants to see if even with this barrier you are still
willing to try.
This is dangerous, because she might be reacting to trust
issues that she needs to sort out and she is using your dedication to her to
drive her needs for security.
·
She’s using you against the other man
She might be right she might have a relationship with the
other married man, but I doubt it’s all just talk. If this is the case she
might be using you to make him jealous to show he’s hand and choose her over
his wife or to push him into doing something else.
This is also dangerous because regardless of what you do,
you will never secure her love, so you might just have to let it go.
·
She doesn’t like you and doesn’t know how to
tell you
Sometimes women to avoid hurting men’s feelings do something
stupid, they lie and when they feel they are about to be caught out expand
their lie and before they know it, it gets away from them. It could be as the
book said, ‘she just not that into you’.
Since that might be the case you have to let it go!
I know none of the above is really reaffirming, because
after all you want me to say fight the good fight, but the truth is you could
be out there finding the woman who’s right for you instead of wasting your time
with the woman who’s all about playing a game on you.
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