How to have a better orgasm. NOW!!!

I get many women asking me how they can get an orgasm much less a better orgasm. Many have spent their lives looking for this amazing feeling they have only heard about.  Well this is one of the better articles i have seen on getting that elusive orgasm.
http://www.essence.com/2012/02/27/how-to-have-a-better-orgasm-right-now/

Enjoyable Sexual position for Men and Women

I get so many questions during sessions and in daily life about what the best sexual positions are for men and for women. This is a big question because everybody believes that they should be swinging from the chandeliers in excitement and euphoria.

The truth is that there are many sexual positions that both men and women enjoy, from the standard missionary position to doggie style to the wheel barrow and many more in between.

There are different strokes for different folks just as there are many striking sexual positions, and these positions  allows for different intensity, depth and friction. To this end sexual positions are very dependent on the personalities and comfort level of the individuals.

Here are a few positions that have been known to increase pleasure for both men and women

The Reverse Cowgirl - Have your guy lie on his back and, facing his feet, straddle him with your knees on either side of his hips. Or, if it's more comfortable, squat over him with your feet flat on the bed. When he's nice and hard (and you're well lubricated), place one hand on the bed or his legs to steady yourself, as you hold the base of his penis with your other hand, and slowly lower yourself onto him.

Once he's securely inside of you, start moving up and down, using your leg muscles to build momentum. You can help maintain your balance by placing your hands in front of you (on his legs or the bed), or reach back and put your hands on his thighs. One of the major perks of any girl-on-top position: You're in control, so mix things up and do whatever feels best. You can vary the speed and depth of penetration. Or play with your movements by gyrating back and forth or in circles instead of just up and down. At some point, try arching your back, which allows his member to stimulate your G-spot. And, since you have easy access to your clitoris, give yourself a hand if you need it.

Couch Canoodle - Have your partner sit back on a couch (or a comfy chair). Straddle his lap with your legs splayed apart and your knees bent up against his chest. Slowly lean back so you're almost upside down with your arms stretched behind you (all the way to the floor) to support your weight and maintain your balance. Thrust back and forth against him, opening and closing your legs.

Sensual spoon -  Lie on your side with your guy behind you. Keep both of your torsos in this doze pose and lift your top leg. Have him shift his lower body into a half-kneeling position, entering you from behind

Bed Spread -Bend over the side of the bed so your stomach and breasts are against the mattress and your feet are on the floor, legs spread comfortably. As your guy penetrates you from behind, he lifts your legs from just above the knees, holds them apart, and thrusts.

The Ride of your Life - Your guy lies on his back. Facing him, lower yourself onto his penis in a kneeling position. Keeping your knees on the bed, curl your feet around the inside of his legs, likely around his knees. Lean forward and grab the bedsheets on either side of his head. While holding the sheets — and your feet wrapped around your man’s calves — squeeze your butt, tilt your pelvis, and move in small, tight motions.

The Linguini - Lie on your side, putting a pillow under your head for extra support. Your man kneels directly behind your butt, leaning ever-so-slightly over your body. He should push one of his knees between your legs, positioning his body so he can penetrate you. He places one hand on your back to help support himself as he goes for the plunge. The key to your pleasure is keeping your limbs as limp as a noodle.

The Wanton Wheelbarrow -  Start by standing and facing a bed or a chair. Bend over until your head and arms are resting on its surface. Have your man stand behind you and grab one of your ankles. Make sure to keep your knee slightly bent as you shift your weight to the leg that's still on the ground. Lifting your foot to rest near his hip, he should enter you from behind
Try them out and let me know if they hit the spot

Since I started having kids, I don’t feel as sexy as I used to. How do I get back into the groove?

Dear loosing the sexy feeling,

The feeling you are having is very common among mothers, the daily grind of life together with the role of being a mother makes life too exhausting sometimes to even consider having sex or even to feel sexy.

Getting back to this part of yourself takes some time, its not something that happens over night and it is something that you have to invest in. You have to be willing to leave your children with people you trust so that you can take the time to go and have a manicure, pedicure by yourself. 

You have to be willing to spend the money and invest in a relaxing massage and also buy those sexy lingerie that when you wear you know that you are sexy.

You have to be able to ask your husband for help when things begin to feel overwhelming. 

In addition to this, you have to find out what turns you on again.

Like all thing worth knowing you have to study yourself again, find out again what makes you feel sexy. Is it a hot quickie, footsie in a restaurant, long slow foreplay, once you find this out again, start to initiate this with your partner and see that changes that are revealed.

I would suggest the following steps to rediscover your sensual and sexual self:

·         Take time to hang out with your friends in a non hectic or rushed environment. Nothing makes you remember who you were better than hanging out with people who see you and know you as you before you became a mother, wife or worker bee

·         Have a spa treatment. The art of relaxation is an art that few people think that they deserve, if you are not at death’s door many people don’t think that they ought to take time to relax. The truth is however, if you cannot relax and put away  the troubles of the day and  month etc, you won’t be able to relax and enjoy getting to know your husband again

·         Get to know you partner again . You might take it for granted that as you are stressed, your partner is not stressed as well, take some time to go out to dinner with no children, and when you return home explore his body the way you  remember and  let him do that same to you. 

This is not all you need to do to get your groove back, but it’s a first step.